✪ It is a very sad thing that nowadays there is so little useless information.
☼☼☼ 如何實現新年目標，心理學家給你答案 ☼☼☼
⇨How to keep your New Year's resolutions, according to science⇦
✽ Learn Spanish? Finally quit smoking? Become a better cook? Whatever you've decided to achieve next year, you know all too well that you're probably going to fail, and that list of beautiful, aspirational goals is staying unfulfilled. Sorry.
✽ For this very reason some people forgo making any resolutions altogether, so we're here to help - this year you might actually have a chance, with help from a few tricks of the mind.
✽ British psychologist Richard Wiseman has done several surveys on willpower - in 2007 he tracked the success of 3,000 people's New Year's resolutions, only to find that a mere 12 percent of them managed to achieve what they had set out to do. He looked into what the successful people were doing differently, and, based on their experience, devised a list of tips for others who want to stop failing miserably.
✽ Before we get into the list, it turns out the number one thing to stop relying on is your own willpower - that's basically the worst approach to keeping a resolution, and is the reason why so many of us never start exercising more, continue eating all that fried chicken, and still can't speak a word of French.
✽ What should you be doing instead? As Wiseman explained on his blog back in 2013, your goals should be small and manageable, you should document your success, tell others about your intentions, and, importantly, not beat yourself up for failing. Here’s the complete list of Wiseman’s advice:
① If possible, make only one resolution - changing a lot of things at once is more difficult.
◈✟◈ 10句聖誕名言 ◈✟◈
1. "Bah, humbug!'
Scrooge's catchphrase, 'Bah, humbug', is often used to express disgust with Christmas charity. Alastair Sim played Scrooge in the classic 1951 film adaptation of A Christmas Carol by Charles Dickens.
2. 'Santa Claus has the right idea. Visit people only once a year.'
Victor Borge (1909-2000), who was born Børge Rosenbaum, was a Danish and American comedian, conductor and pianist, affectionately known as The Clown Prince of Denmark.
3. 'The one thing women don’t want to find in their stockings on Christmas morning is their husband.'
--The late American comic Joan Rivers
4. 'I stopped believing in Santa Claus when I was six. Mother took me to see him in a department store and he asked for my autograph.'
--Child star actress Shirley Temple
5. 'Unless we make Christmas an occasion to share our blessings, all the snow in Alaska won’t make it white.'
--Bing Crosby (1904-1977), American actor and singer who had a million-selling hit withI'm Dreaming Of A White Christmas.
6. 'I felt overstuffed and dull and disappointed, the way I always do the day after Christmas.'
--Sylvia Plath, poet
7. 'Always winter but never Christmas.'
--CS Lewis, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe
8. 'My idea of Christmas, whether old-fashioned or modern, is very simple: loving others. Come to think of it, why do we have to wait for Christmas to do that?'
--American comedian Bob Hope
9. 'It snowed last year too: I made a snowman and my brother knocked it down and I knocked my brother down and then we had tea.'
--Dylan Thomas, A Child's Christmas in Wales
10. 'God bless us, every one!' Come on everybody . . . . 'Ahhhhh'.
A sentimental ending to Charles Dickens's A Christmas Carol is provided by Tiny Tim (2009 Disney version) who offers the statement, 'God bless us, every one!' at Christmas dinner, with the nice new Scrooge in mind.
17 questions you should never ask at the end of a job interview
When you're in the hot seat, there's a good chance your interviewer will turn the tables at some point and ask, "Do you have any questions for me?"
When you have the floor, you'll want to take full advantage of the opportunity to show that you've done your homework and to determine if the job is a good fit.
But it's imperative that you put just as much thought into what you ask as you do your responses to their questions, because your queries may reflect your knowledge of the company, your work ethic, your level of professionalism, and your interest in the role.
"In the first interview, you'll want to be sure to ask the right questions. Ask about the job and company; not questions that can come off as self-serving and give the impression you may not be a team player or be willing to give 100%," says Amy Hoover, president of the job board.
She continued: "The sole purpose of the interview is to determine if you are a good fit for the company, and if it's a good fit for you. All the other issues and concerns should be addressed during negotiations after the job offer has been made."
Here are 17 questions you'll want to avoid during the first job interview, as they may do more harm than good:
✪ What does your company do?
Questions like this will make you look unprepared. To avoid that, never ask anything that can easily be answered with a Google search.
✪ What will my salary be?
Hold off on the money talk.
✪ Will I have to work long hours?
This says, "I'm lazy."
✪ How soon can I take a vacation?
Wait until you're offered the job before you start asking these types of questions.
✪ How quickly could I be considered for a promotion?
Focus on the job at hand.
✪ When will I be eligible for a raise?
This may tell the interviewer that money is the only thing you care about.
✪ Will I have my own office?
Does it really matter?
✪ What happens if I don't get along with my boss or coworkers?
The interviewer may wonder if you've had problems with colleagues in the past — and they may even assume you're difficult to work with.
✪ Will I have an expense account?
There's really no reason to ask this in the interview. Plus, it sends the wrong message.
✪ Are you married?/Do you have kids?/etc.
Never, ever ask the interviewer any personal questions.
✪ Can I make personal calls during the day?
This one says you're not 100% focused on your work.
✪ I heard this rumor about the CEO. Is it true?
You should never bring gossip into a job interview. It's highly unprofessional.
✪ Do you monitor emails or internet usage?
This question will raise red flags — something you definitely don't want to do in the interview.
✪ Do you do background checks?
This one may also make the interviewer suspicious.
✪ Can I arrive early or leave late, as long as I get my work done?
Don't try to make adjustments to the schedule before you've even been offered the job.
✪ How did I do?
This one puts the interviewer on the spot. If you really want feedback, wait until you get the offer or rejection, and then ask in an email what you did well, or could have done better.
✪ Did I get the job?
You don't want to appear too eager.
Bonus: The worst question of all is the one you never ask.
"Not asking questions can be just as bad, or worse, than asking terrible questions," says Deborah Shane, a career author, speaker, and media consultant. "It can reveal a lot about your communication skills, personality, and confidence — and it can leave the interviewer with a bad impression of you."
Receiving an invitation for a job interview can be an exciting time – especially after you’ve been job-searching for a while.
Unfortunately, it’s all too easy to kill off all your chances of getting a job by saying just a few wrong words during your job interview.
To make sure your job interview leads to the next round or a job offer, here’s a list of words which you should aim to avoid.
♞ Um.. 嗯…♞
The biggest problem with this word is that you’re probably unaware of how much you use it. 這個詞的最大問題就在於你可能沒有意識到你用它用的有多頻繁。
If you listened to a recording of yourself, you’d probably be surprised (and probably horrified) at the amount of “umming” you do.
Unfortunately, this makes you look less polished during a job interview.
One of the best ways to remove this filler from your vocabulary is to let your friends and family know that you want their help and they can profit from it. Tell them that you’ll pay a dollar to every person who catches you using it.
♞ Kinda 有一點 ♞
Not only does this word make you sound like a teenager, it also introduces vagueness into your answers.
To make sure you come across confident and mature, replace “kinda” with clear “yes” or “no”. Follow your answer with a clear reason why you’ve taken that position.
♞ Hate 憎恨 ♞
Nobody likes a hater. When a hiring manager or recruiter hears you say that word, they hear “high risk candidate”.
Avoid aiming this word at anyone or anything during your job interview. This includes “pet hates”, as well as feelings towards companies, ex-colleagues and – especially – bosses you’ve had.
♞ Any Curse Word 任何咒駡詞 ♞
Even if you think the company culture might find such words acceptable, don’t risk it at the interview stage.
You’re risking coming across as unprofessional and crass.
♞ Perfectionist 完美主義者 ♞
This is the most popular among overused, meaningless cliches.
There was a time when “I’m a perfectionist” was a clever way to get out of a question about your weaknesses. These days, any interviewer worth their salt will see through this ploy and cringe on the inside at your answer.
♞ Basically 總的來說 ♞
It’s tempting to use this word as a prelude to your achievements. For example, “Basically, I was responsible for flying the capsule to the Moon and back.”
Unfortunately, doing this also diminishes you. So, unless you’re Buzz Aldrin, skip it and launch straight into your answer.
♞ I 我 ♞
In today’s culture-centric employment world, you’re only as good as your ability to work as part of a team.
While competitiveness is a great trait to demonstrate, overusing sentences like “I was the top salesperson in my company” can give off the impression that you’ll take it too far, pushing your colleagues down and aside in order to get to the top.
By all means, brandish your achievements, but let your interviewer know what that meant for the team and/or the company. For example, “I was the top salesperson in my last role during 2013, which meant I was able to exceed my targets by $1.2 million during that year.”
♞ Sure 當然 ♞
It’s tempting to use this word to communicate “it’s almost a yes.”However, doing this also chips away at your ability to appear confident. Just as with “Kinda” above, it’s best to remove any ambiguity about where you stand. Use a firm “yes” or “no” instead, expanding on your position if necessary by providing reasons and examples.
♞ Amazing 太棒了 ♞
This is a word which is often used as a filler to convey positivity. The hiring manager might say, for example, “We just spent $20 million on a brand new office fit-out.” Instead of blurting out “Amazing!” to validate that choice, take a moment to think about the reasons behind such a move and provide analysis which the interviewer would find relevant. For example: “That must have done wonders for employee satisfaction.”
♞ Whatever 無所謂 ♞
“Whatever” is usually used to communicate that you’ve given up. It shows that you lost power and withdrew from the issue, instead of achieving an outcome which you found satisfactory.
It also makes you sound immature and dismissive – using it will communicate to the interviewer that you’re trouble.
♞ Stuff 那些事 ♞
Not only is this word overly casual in tone, it introduces ambiguity into your answers.
It can be tempting end your answer with it when you’re struggling to add detail – for example, “You know – stuff like that.” Doing sufficient research and practicing your answers will reduce that desire. Your interviewer doesn’t, in fact, know – they want to hear it from you in detail.
♞ Dedicated 專注 ♞
In today’s job market, everyone is dedicated. It’s no longer a differentiating feature. It’s also a hollow, overused cliche which shows that you probably copied your answers from the Internet, rather than preparing sufficiently for the interview by thinking about the role and your career.
Demonstrate to your interviewer that you’re dedicated by talking about your achievements.
♞ Motivated 有激情 ♞
This also includes synonymous buzz-words like “self-starter” and “enthusiastic.”
You might think that you’re telling your interviewer that you don’t need a babysitter, but all they’re thinking at that moment is “Thanks for the obvious. You’re wasting my time.” You might as well tell them that you have a pulse.
♞ Learn 學習 ♞
Don’t ever tell your interviewer that you’re applying for a job to “learn.”
It’s true that you’re expected to learn, but the primary motivation for applying should be your ability to contribute something to the company that no-one else can.
♞ Fired 解雇 ♞
You want to avoid this word at all costs. It can contextualize you in the interviewer’s mind as a troublemaker, and once that context is set, everything positive about you will be diminished and everything negative will be amplified.
Having been fired doesn’t automatically put you into the “no” pile. However, not being able to talk about it diplomatically will.
If you were fired due to under-performance, use the words “let go” instead. Explain how you used the experience to become a better employee. “I’m glad it happened because I needed to become a better marketer. In my next role I created a direct response campaign which exceeded the targets by 20%.”
✠✠✠ 面試四件事做到誠實 ✠✠✠
❶ I do kind of live here
If you've used a different address on your résumé to tailor it to where the job is based, don't lie about it when it comes up in the interview. If your potential employer asks you where you live, tell them where you currently live, but let them know that you're willing to move for the job. The problem with this lie is you may have several rounds of interviews and you'll have to keep flying back and forth for them. If they think you live in the city, they'll probably give you short notice for interviews and those last-minute flights can be really expensive。
❷ I make so much more than my real salary
If your interviewer asks you how much you made at your last job, you may think it's a white lie to fudge the numbers a little. However, some employers ask for a copy of your W2, so you may want to be cautious about giving a fake amount because it can be construed as unethical. If you don't want to cough up your previous salary, let it be known that you don't think it has any bearing on this new job and cite the typical industry number。
❸ That's totally my GPA
If you think that inflating your grade point average will get you the job, you may want to reconsider. Some companies request a copy of your transcript or verification with the school, especially those with job positions that require a minimum GPA。
❹ I didn't get fired at my last job
Given the bad economy, there are plenty of people that have been laid off so don't be afraid to let the interviewer know. Try not to go into the details, and let her know what happened and what you learned from the experience。
Remember, the general rule of thumb is to be honest during your interview. It's different for everyone, but if you get asked uncomfortable questions, there's always a polite way of refusing to answer。
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